Coming into this Law of Attraction stuff, one thing I never expected was to be encouraged to revel in my thoughts of revenge and vindictiveness.

After all, my initial impression about Law of Attraction was that it was a positive thinking exercise where I’d be expected to just drop my negative thoughts and replace them with happy, cotton-candy, apple pie thoughts.

Vindictiveness and thoughts of revenge have always been things I’ve purposely tried to skip over, because like most of us in this world, I’ve seen people who seemed to have gotten stuck in that emotional state, and the damage they did to the relationships around them.

But as it turns out, Law of Attraction has actual strategies for handling negative emotions! Now that I’ve got new strategies, I’ve been able to start to overcome the anger/depression trap that a lot of people (including myself) seem to be socialized into.

I’m so incredibly greatful.

Why Law of Attraction Encourages Vindictiveness

This is a huge thing that I know a lot of people could get up in arms about, and from my pre-Law of Attraction viewpoint (which I can still align with and understand), I can completely see why encouraging thoughts of vindictiveness would be labeled an “OMG! You’re a BAD person if you encourage that!!” kind of thing.

But in short, as with everything to do with the Law of Attraction, the reason vindictiveness fits in is that frankly, sometimes a revengeful or vindictive thought actually feels good. If you’re in a place of anger or depression, there is visceral relief and a feeling of having more control of your happiness when thoughts of vindictiveness are allowed to flow through the brain.

More on Vindictiveness and the Law of Attraction

Vindictiveness, revenge, anger, and even frustration and depression are all emotional states that Law of Attraction gives strategies for handling in an effective way.

That is, in a way that goes about helping YOU feel better about your relationships with other people and things, but doesn’t go about damaging those relationships, either. Knowing full well the destructive power of a vengeful, vindictive attitude on one hand, and the damage that bottling up emotions can cause on the other, I can’t begin to tell you how amazing it is to have these emotional strategies that Law of Attraction gives for dealing with negative feelings.

How Law of Attraction Views Vindictiveness

Negative feelings like vindictiveness, anger, depression, fear, and frustration are, according to the Law of Attraction, just indicators of how out-of-alignment your thoughts are with what your always-joyful inner self knows to be true.

According to the Law of Attraction, Life Is Supposed To Feel Good! And a basic premise of it is that when our thoughts are in alignment with what our inner self believes to be true, we’re in a state of joy, bliss, happiness.

When it comes to finding ourselves in a place of depression, anger, vindictiveness and other negative emotions, the messages we receive from our inner self are designed to gently and slowly guide us back to feeling happy, joyful, blissful -- if we’d listen to the inner voice instead of the people around us.

Where Most Of Us Get Derailed

Estherham mentions it regularly in her Law of Attraction workshop sessions:

At times, people find themselves in a place of depression over a situation. While they’re crying and moping and self-hating, they may annoy other people, but ohhhhh… when that person currently in a state of depression experiences the breath of fresh air that an angry thought brings them, things start to change!

Compared to feeling sad and depressed, feeling angry is empowering… at least to the person who was sad before, and angry now. All of sudden they can BREATHE again! They can feel the blood pumping through their veins! They’re powered and poised to make lasting changes in their life in order to improve it.

But here’s where the problems generally start: In this new found power, physical action is taken in the form of speech, body language, and decision-making.

Because of the negativity of the emotion behind this physical action, the problem begins to compound: The rest of the world weighs in, pushing against the anger and vindictiveness:

“You shouldn’t feel that way, it’s destructive.”
“Why are you mad at X? It was YOUR FAULT anyway…”
“People who harbor revengeful thoughts are bad/evil.”
“If you want something to complain about, I can GIVE you something to complain about…”

Since most of us believe ourselves to be fundamentally good people, with good intentions and positive goals in life, these messages from people watching our angry display tend to cool our anger, for sure -- which is what everyone generally wants -- but the anger is cooled in the wrong emotional direction, back down towards guilt and depression.

As a result, after a while of crying and moping and feeling badly about how their anger about a situation was chastised, the inner self starts to guide us towards better feeling thoughts and the emotional cycle of depression to anger begins again.

Many people are so trained in the cycle of “depression-anger-external response-guilt-depression” that we don’t even need the external responses anymore to cycle between depression, anger, and guilt. Just feeling a hint of vindictiveness will send some people plummeting back into depression, without a single word or look from others!

How To Use Vindictiveness Effectively

Vindictiveness and Anger are two very similar emotions. Many of us find it’s difficult to separate the two in our thoughts, because our angry thoughts often include what we’d do to punish those who have “caused us” this pain. But if we look at it more closely, Vindictiveness can easily be seen as a step “up” the emotional ladder towards joy when compared to anger: Doesn’t it feel better to think about teaching a lesson to someone you’re angry with?

Of course, there is a big key to the strategy of truly getting past the cycle of depression/guilt/anger, and that is this:

Take Only Mental Action Steps During This Time.

Meaning, spend time thinking about the situation, but keep the thoughts to yourself as best you can while keeping your body language neutral as well. The key to success in these negative states is to acknowledge them, revel in them instead of denying them, and then let the natural inner energies move your thoughts to a better feeling place when the time feels right.

It’s really difficult sometimes, because the temptation to say something when I’m feeling angry or vindictive is strong, but I know from experience that when I let those things come out, the result is rarely a positive experience, and then I tend to add a feeling of guilt on to my already negative state.

Here’s an Abraham Hicks video on my YouTube channel (subscribe, eh?) that was recently uploaded which covers this topic really well:

How To Know When The Time Feels Right

I’ll close this blog entry by reminding you, the reader, that the timing of moving from one emotional state to another is completely up to you, the one feeling the emotions. Other people around you might have opinions, suggestions, advice, and even personal experiences of their own, but only the one who is actively feeling the emotions can make appropriate decisions based upon them.

For some situations, skipping from anger directly to frustration and completely skipping the vindictiveness and revengeful emotions will work, but for other situations, it might be important to really revel in the thoughts and feelings of anger and revenge, milking and feeling the energy provided by these states of mind.

You’ll know when it’s time to let go of the angry and vengeful thoughts when you start noticing your thoughts tending more towards frustration (embrace those now!).

You’ll know if it’s too soon to try to feel good about the situation if in reaching a feel-good place, your thoughts automatically move to thoughts that make you feel sad about the situation again. Don’t try to rush it.

You’ll know when you’re letting your emotional state slip the wrong way when you give in to feelings of guilt or sadness (purposely think angry and vindictive thoughts some more).

And in time, you’ll give yourself what you need to truly escape that destructive cycle of pain, guilt and anger -- patience, love and trust.

Once you understand how to revel in your vindictiveness in a creative, productive way, life gets a little bit brighter, don’t you agree?

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