When Thumbs Soothe ;)
So, here I am, with my neat little blog set up all ready to talk about how the Law of Attraction has influenced my life, and when I approach the site thinking about posting an entry, I’m faced with…
In an attempt to “feel better feeling thoughts” I’ve found myself using escape mechanisms quite a bit, which aren’t actually dealing with the core issues that I’m griefing on myself about.
So, this is me dusting off a little, acknowledging that finding a more effective way of soothing my anxieties would get me closer to my goals more quickly, and telling you all about it.
Soothing Anxiety, Analysis Paralysis, without Escapism
When I first started into this Law of Attraction thing, I grabbed firmly onto the thought “Life Should Feel Good!” and took that sentiment deep down into my soul.
I realized how damaging my Passive Aggressive behaviors in life have been and vowed to replace them with healthy boundaries and healthy assertiveness, and then put my full attention on that, without feeling bad about having been PA in the past.
I bumped around and set some boundaries too firmly and had to figure out how to re-approach some damaged relationships to begin to heal the long-standing wounds.
Now that I’ve gotten good at setting and maintaining healthy boundaries without resorting to passive aggressive measures, I find that I’m in a bit of a void, and that void likes to fill with anxiety if I’m not purposely focusing my mind in another direction.
When the anxiety gets too great, I tend to escape into documentaries, sleep, physical exercise (not a bad one considering), music as my way to re-align in a soothing way.
This is fine, except for the fact that I keep letting that void fill and fill and fill with anxiety until I feel the need to escape, and now that I’ve realized that pattern, it’s time to get into alignment earlier in the void filling process by focusing my attention more effectively.
Soothing With “Towards” vs “Away-From” Motivation
I started out on this Law of Attraction journey being quite “away-from” motivated. Meaning, I took as much action as I needed to deal with the necessities of life, but always found reasons and distractions to not go for “more”.
Early in this Law of Attraction thing that was fine -- I had a lot of things within my own thought processes that I was motivated to change so that I wouldn’t repeat the damaging Passive Aggressive behaviors from the past, and that was enough to entertain my thoughts.
But now… now I’m working on refining the smaller details of my thoughts and habits, and the desire for change has cooled down because the contrast isn’t as great as it used to be. I don’t get into those dramatic scenes that are caused when passive aggressiveness is injected into a relationship because I find it a lot easier to calmly assert myself than I used to, and that’s really great.
But the juice for change in my life has changed from being my indignance of where I had allowed myself to end up emotionally, to something softer -- anxiety -- that doesn’t pack the same punch until it gathers up and gathers up.
Soothing via “Towards-Motivated” Action
So, if I’ve come from a place of “away-from” motivation, where I was driven by what I didn’t want in order to decide what I did want, and the power of the things I don’t want aren’t as strong in terms of inspiring action, what’s next for me?
Acknowledging that I’ve got it pretty damned good to be at an emotional spot where there’s so few things that can take me on an emotional journey that goes much past a small flash of anger, and up into frustration, for one.
And for two, purposely switching where I receive my inspiration for goal-seeking…. from reliance on emotion to point the way, and towards the self-soothing practice of more clearly defining the things that I want to accomplish over the next few years in order to get myself into the flow of what has to happen today or tomorrow.
Truthfully, I feel a bit of anxiety just thinking about making a 1-5 year plan, even though every success coach encourages it in some way, and I know it’d be soothing to have the plan down so I don’t have to keep remembering it. Just sitting back and visualizing what this network of sites could be in a year kinda scares me ;)
But it’s the place I’m at right now, and it’s a beautiful place to be.
No longer do I allow myself to be manipulated by people who feel angry or depressed, and with this freedom of emotion, I can look at my future and know the healthy boundaries will only serve me well as I continue to move forward.
Wish me luck on my journey of effective self-soothing, my friends!
(the closest I could find to a self-soothing Abe video)
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Oh Val, you’re support and words are so soothing. . .
I resonate with your acknowledgement of a void filling up with anxiety. But between the lines I can sense excitement and that “butterfly in your tummy” feeling about the unknown but the beautiful future that lies ahead of you, rather than anxiousness you talk of. Maybe its MY perspective of your future. But it really goes to show, that it is all about perspective, isn’t it? Although it takes a lot of practising to get it right, it’s really worth working on it. Feeling you’re in a good place right now is a lovely feeling, reassuring and the result of any actions is always better…
You’ve come a long way and have learnt so much on the way. We are grateful, that you have taken the time and energy to create a lovely blog where Abe lovers can talk about things freely… and co-create on another level altogether.
An Abe-Blog was circulating in my vortex for a couple of months now – always nice to physically manifest something so big :) Keep it up!
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Thank you so much for your kind words, I’m so glad we connected! I think part of this whole thing is about the exchange of energy that we all get from reading about other experiences and sharing our own. It’s like a friendly hand to hold as we walk down our various paths of life. :)