Can You Define Who You Are?

You might think, “What a ridiculous question!”

But as this series progresses both in my blog and in the email list, you might be open to other thoughts when asked that question again.

Your Labels Are Not Who You Are

Generally when you ask someone “who are you?”, the first response they’ll give you is a label that describes them:

• “I’m Jimmy Stewart” one might respond
• “I’m the doctor” from another
• “I’m the one your mother warned you about!” from yet another

But in reality, none of these labels really answer the question, because the question of who you are itself is more complex than it seems.

Who You Are

Who you are is much more than the simple labels we carry around. The labels themselves are actually just a vain attempt to communicate where we see ourselves fitting into a pre-defined set of social rules, but for that reason, labels by definition leave out so much of what really makes each of us wonderful and unique.

How We Label Ourselves And Others

It’s easy to get caught in the trap of seeing people according to how and where they fit into “socialization” rulesets:

Because I have more education, I should get paid more than people with less education (social proof)
Because he performs on stage with a popular band, he’s a Rock Star. (social proof)
Because she and her husband run a family farm, she’s a Farmer’s Wife. (intellect)
Because I keep making the same dumb errors, I must be stupid. (intellect)
Because he looks nervous, he must be guilty of something. (good vs bad)
Because she’s beautiful, she must be a bitch. (mating)
Because my body is not as attractive as others I see, I can’t attract an attractive person myself (mating)
Because he hasn’t done what he said he’d do, he must have said that to placate me (honesty)
Because she insists on leaving her clothes in a pile heap on the floor every day despite knowing it bothers me, she must be doing this to annoy me. (respect)
Because she insists on leaving her clothes in a pile heap on the floor every day despite knowing it bothers me, she must expect me to clean it up all the time. (respect)
Because I leave my clothes in a pile heap on the floor every day despite knowing it bothers my mate/roommate, I must be a slob. (good vs bad)
If they don’t listen to me – and I know about this topic – it’s because they’re trying to be difficult. (good / bad)

Any of these could very well be true, but the main point is that it’s not the entire story, and neither are the labels that have been applied to you in your life (by you or others you believed).

In fact, if you tried to live by any one of these labels, you’d find absolutely no guidance as to how to behave during the majority of your waking hours.

There Aren’t Enough Labels

So you might think “but of course, I’m not just one thing, I am a composite!” and you would be right.

As Meredith Brooks put it in her song “Bitch”:

I’m A Bitch, I’m a lover
I’m a child, I’m a mother
I’m a sinner, I’m a saint
(I do not feel ashamed)

But are there really enough labels to properly describe who you are and help govern your decisions about how to act? (the old “what would Captain Picard do” method of decision making)

And don’t you find that some of the labels that describe one part of you actually clash with labels that describe another part of you?

What do you do when faced with multiple choices in order to decide which option will bring the longest-lasting sense of joy?

Helping You Find Your Own Answers

That’s what the Law of Attraction and ultimately this site and my email list complete with its free downloads of eBooks written by me on this topic is all about. Glad you joined, Great to have you on board as you re-discover who you are!

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1. Empathy and How To Become Unhurtable
2. Abraham Hicks on Annoying People
3. Abraham Hicks: Teenager’s Snarky Tone
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